Choosing Couples or Singles

July 21st, 2008

Choosing Couples or Singles

For some people, if they are not part of a couple, they are not happy, while others are content to live life as singles. Which should you choose? That has to be a decision you make, and you must make it based upon what is right for you, and what makes you happen. If you have just left a bad relationship, you certainly do not want to jump back into a relationship—give yourself time to heal. Not only that, if you have been in a long-term relationship or marriage, you need the time to be alone and depend on yourself instead of someone else before you enter into another relationship.

Does that mean you shouldn’t date? No, of course it doesn’t, but instead of becoming involved in a relationship, just have fun. Date different people, go to dances, meeting new people for just friendship, and do things on your own that you didn’t have a chance to do when you were part of a couple. It’s never a good idea to start a new relationship as soon as you one, especially if the relationship was intense. Even if it wasn’t that intense, give yourself some space before you choose another couples relationship. It’s certainly easy enough to think you need that “security,” but the truth is that many relationship fail for that reason alone. People become co-dependent, and they cannot exist outside of the scope of the relationship, and the other person feels smothered.

Even if you are single because you don’t have a steady partner, don’t be overly concerned with changing that. What many people fail to realize is that when it’s time for them to be part of a couple, it will happen. You don’t want to force it, or seek someone out just to be part of a couple. Friends of the opposite gender are just as nice to have, and you never know—that may be the person with whom your destiny lies when the time is right.

Frokk - Free online dating site

October 31st, 2007

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Frokk.com is new free online site. Some interesting articles on frokk:

Famous Historical Lovers
10 Things to do to Get Ready for a Date
Relationship Secrets from the Pros
Other Ways in Which Men Say I Love You
Flowers and their meanings

Knowing When You’re In Love

October 8th, 2007

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People have been asking for many years how you know you’re in love, and the answer is no clearer today than it was hundreds of years ago. Love is not a feeling you can describe to someone and say that is how you feel if you’re in love. You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, and you can’t describe it because each person who feels it may not feel the same way. The best answer anyone has ever been able to give is “you’ll just know.” As open-ended as that answer is, there is no other way to answer that question.

There are some things that you can use to define the difference between love and infatuation, with the two most obvious ones being:

  • Love allows you to accept someone with their faults and still love them vs. infatuation where you see someone as faultless.
  • When you love someone you are happy even if you are not together because you hold on to the memories of good times and know you will see your loved one again but with infatuation you have a constant need to be with the person you “love” and feel sad and insecure when you are not together.

That doesn’t mean that if you miss your loved one, you are not in love because there will be times you will be unhappy away from them. Likewise, it doesn’t mean you can’t transition from infatuation to love nor does it mean if fault manifest themselves you will stop caring for your loved one. You are the only one who knows by what you feel if you are in love. What about if you’re only a teenager? It depends on you though most adults will tell you that you’re too young to be in love. In most cases, you probably are, but you’re too young to concern yourself with that. Live for the moment and only concern yourself with those issues if you’re still with the same person when you are 20, 21, or 22 years old, are out of college, and established in a career.

How to Build Lasting Relationships

October 1st, 2007

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One important part of dating is learning how to maintain relationships. It’s easier enough to meet new people but learning how to build on those relationships is something different completely. Even more difficult is building a long-term relationship with one person. Doing that means learning what the two of you have in common and how you can compromise on the issue with which you disagree. It certainly takes maturity and a sense of commitment to a relationship to do that, but it is not that difficult.

In any relationship there must exist the element of trust. It doesn’t matter if it is a friendship or romance, if there is no trust, there can be no committed relationship or friendship. Honesty is the backbone of trust, so both elements must exist within a relationship for it to work. That means you must be honest yourself and able to trust the other person in order to build and maintain a good relationship. No relationship can exist without both of those elements existing. That is the reason why relationships that contain a unhealthy amount of jealousy do not last because although the one part may be honest himself or herself, if they cannot transfer trust in the other person, the relationship is doomed from the start.

Besides trust and honesty, one must also have consideration for the feelings of the other person. You may be thinking that is easy to do, but you will find there are times when it is easier said than done. For example, maybe you can’t agree on where to go on a date, and there is some place you have your heart set on going, and your date is adamant that he or she will not go there. It’s very difficult to not say that you’re going with or without him or her. This is something that you have to learn if you expect to develop a lasting relationship with anyone, whether it’s a friend or lover.

From Casual Dating to Long-Term Relationship

September 27th, 2007

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When you enter into a casual dating relationship, you really don’t know what is going to happen. When you started, you didn’t want to be committed, and you were enjoying being free to date different people. Somewhere along the line things changed, and you began to see tings from a different angle. You want more than just one or two nights a week, and though you feel your partner feels the same way, he or she has not indicated that in a verbal sense. Is there a time that is right to express your feelings, or do you just let it ride and see what happens? What should you do to make ensure that both of you feel the same way? What do you do if you find out that what you want doesn’t match that of your dating partner?

It is very difficult sometimes to know what someone wants, and even worse to know what to do if their desires are different from yours. How can you find out? Without any kind of question or future expectations, you can just casually in a thinking-out-loud kind of way mention that you might be thinking of something more long-term at some point and see what his or her reaction is. Notice the “at same point” rather than the “now” so that you’re not saying that’s how you feel now but that maybe at some time in the future you may be interested. Right now all you’re doing is “digging.” You want to find out if this relationship is worth continuing and to find out if you both are looking for the same thing.

What if the answers you receive are not the ones you want to hear? That is a decision you will have to make if that happens. The thing to remember is the answers you hear today may not be the same ones you’ll hear next week or next month. If you only recently started dating, you have time to wait, but if you’ve been dating for over a year, and your partner is not interested in the same thing you are, it may be time to think about moving on.

Choosing a Dating Site

September 26th, 2007

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With so many different dating sites available on the Internet, it can be difficult to choose the one that is right for you. How do you make that decision? What criteria do you use when choosing a dating site? Some of the things you may want to consider include:

  • Price
  • Features
  • Number of potential partners
  • Type of people using the site
  • Percentage of successful matches

If you’re going to pay for a dating site, you certainly want to make sure that the site you use has enough members that meet your criteria to make it worthwhile. For example, you don’t want to pay $40 a month for a dating site and only find one or two matches in an entire month. You want to make sure that the site you choose has enough members that appeal to you in order to make it worthwhile. You can discover this by choosing a site that allows you to view profiles free. Follow it for a few weeks to see how many you see that appeal to your interests before you decide to join and pay the fee. You can also join and follow the profiles and see how many are interested in you.

When viewing the dating sites, don’t look at just one. Even if you have already made a decision on the one you prefer, look at others in order to discover if you are really choosing the site that is going to be the most beneficial. You want to allow yourself enough of a selection to know you’re getting a fair price and enough profiles from which to choose so that you aren’t wasting your money on something that isn’t going to work for you. Follow the law of averages and choose the site that has enough profiles that match your requirements to make it an economically sound decision.

The Best International Sites

September 3rd, 2007

The international online dating portal allows people to meet fascinating people all over the world. Thanks to modern technology, we are no longer tied to dating singles from just our area. Whether you are looking for a pen pal or are wanting an online romance, there is something for everybody here.

PARSHIP.co.uk This is the place to go if you are looking for a serious, long term relationship. PARSHIP.co.uk caters specifically to singles who want to form lasting relationships. This website boosts over two million singles on their site. PARSHIP.co.uk was the United Kingdoms’ first compatibility based online dating service. The most successful of all of the UK online dating services, singles who use PARSHIP are twice as lucky to find a lasting relationship.

NewFriends4U.com An European dating site, NewFriends4U.com is free, quick and easy. You can create and place your article for free. You can also send free contact messages (a service you usually have to pay for at other sites). They also have articles and helpful tips.

ElitePartner.de This German online dating agency uses new member questionnaires to match singles with other singles with the same interests.

Muslima.com A site specifically for the Muslim community. It offers to set up single Muslim men and women for friendship and marriage.

Asian Adult Friend Finder For Asians looking to explore their sexuality. This site has over 12 million members.

Yahoo! Personals UK Yahoo! Personals brings together people from all over the United Kingdom and Ireland.

BlinkDating.com.au Australia’s leading online dating service. BlinkDating hosts speed dating events which are guaranteed. If you do not meet a potential mate; your next event is free.

ChineseLoveLinks.com Caters to single Chinese men and women. A nice feature is the success stories from real life couple who found love on this site.

Meetic.co.uk This is Europe’s leading online dating service provider spanning several countries and a couple of continents.

IndianFriendFinder: An online site meeting the dating and relationship needs of Indians all over the world.

Meetic.se Boosting over 50,000 profiles, Meetic.se is the largest Dutch online dating site serving Swedish singles. A nice touch is the twenty-four hour free trial.

Date.ca The premiere site for single men and women in Canada

JapanCupid.com This site caters to the international Japanese community. Features personal profiles and chat rooms.

FriendsAsia.com: The fastest growing internet dating service in Asia. This site connects Asian singles from all over the world.

FrenchFriendFinder: The ultimate in Canadian and French online personals.

KoreanFriendFinder: A fun and easy website for the Korean community. Find friendship, dating, romance, and love by using this site.

PakistaniLounge.com: This site caters to everyone looking to meet singles of Pakistani descent.

GetaLife.com.au The first Australian site catering to singles who are into sporting, cultural and recreational activities. Expand your mind, get in shape, and meet new people, all at the same time.

Italian FriendFinder: The ultimate in Italian online personals.

Interracial Dating

August 31st, 2007

Interracial dating is no longer taboo. At one time a person who dared to experiment with interracial dating was met with judgment and hostility. Often the hostility turned to violence. Luckily, those days are over. Today it is not uncommon for interracial couples to marry and have children.

Perhaps you are an ole pro at interracial relationships, or perhaps you are a novice looking to further your experience; whatever your reason the net has many exciting and fun filled sites available. The hardest part for you may be picking which site you want to check out first.

We have indexed the top interracial dating agencies on the web. Each of these sites has something unique to offer. Look through our list to find the one that seems most appropriate for what you are looking for. You may just find the man or woman of your dreams.

InterracialSingles.net:  The ideal place for singles to start their search for singles of a different ethnic background than them.  This site offers several nice services including online chat rooms, real time instant messaging, photo personals, and anonymous private mailboxes.

Interacial Adult FriendFinder This is the largest adult interracial sex and swinger personal ads site on the web. With over twelve million members, there is something for everyone on this site.

InterracialCupid.com  This website was specifically designed to meet the needs of singles who wish to meet and mingle with other singles from a different ethnic background. If you are looking to expand your dating choices and are thinking about experimenting with an interracial relationship; then this site is definitely for you. Here you can read online personals from people looking for friendship, sex, and long term commitments. This site offers the usual search options and chat rooms to help you connect with other online singles.

InterracialDateLink.com  InterracialDateLink.com caters to those singles who are sure that they want to enter into interracial dating. This site is set up so that the user can search quickly easily.  The user can customize their search to look for matches of a specific race.

InterracialMatch.com: While looking for someone from a different ethnic background is possible on any online dating site;  this one caters specifically to singles interestred in dating outside of their own race.  This site has lots of nice features including blogs, news headlines and forums. One very unique feature to this site is the  listings in a variety of countries; thus giving  this site a truly international feel.

InterracialVillage.com  This is the site to go to if you are looking to meet and make friends with someone from a foreign country.

Meeting someone from a different country is fun, interesting, and educational. You can learn about cultures, religions, and different societies.

Having an interracial sexual relationship is thrilling. An interracial relationship, though tricky, can really spice up your life.

We hope that you find what you are looking for in one of these sites.

Arranging the First Meeting

August 29th, 2007

When you’re meeting people using online dating sites, it’s important for all singles to remember to exercise caution when meeting someone for the first time. It’s easy to say you’ve been corresponding for three, six, nine months, but when it comes to an in-person meeting, you still have to be very careful. There is a world of difference between singles meeting on line and meeting in person, and you just never know what kind of person with which you have been conversing until you meet in person. Of course, even then you don’t know enough to throw caution to the wind.

No matter how long you have been communicating with someone that you met online or through an online dating service, do not meet them alone, and that is just as important for men as for women in today’s world. If you’re meeting for dinner, meet at the restaurant in your individual cars and leave the same way. Though this is more important for female singles, men are not exempt, although it’s more of an exploitation or fraud attempt than physical violence. Until you have met several times in public places, singles should never agree to meet a new dating partner alone, and even then, do not put yourself in such a vulnerable position as to meet at his or her house, apartment, or hotel room unless you are absolutely sure it is safe to do so.

In addition to dinner, other public places that singles might consider for their first meeting include malls, museums, crowded beaches, visits with friends, amusement park, or a picnic in an area that is frequented by crowds of people. If you don’t have a cell phone, borrow one for the occasion so that you have a way to contact someone for help if something should go wrong. For the female singles, do not use the first meeting to show off all of your sexy clothes—rather, choose an outfit that is conservative but stylish so that you don’t put yourself into a vulnerable position. If you’re going to pursue online dating, you have to learn how to conduct yourself so that you don’t set yourself up for danger.

Even if you have spoken on the phone, corresponded by email, and been in online chats, the first meeting should be to get to know each other. No matter how much you have spoken, there is nothing like meeting in person to get the real scoop, especially since you now have the facial expressions and can determine if everything is fact or if there is some fiction in there as well. Female singles are taken in more than males, but that doesn’t mean that it never happens. Everyone is capable of being conned, so you have to always be on your guard and listen carefully to what your date says so that you can catch anything that seems to contradict something else he or she said. Contradictory statements are the easiest way to catch a lie,

Your first meeting is important because that is the one that will set the pace for the rest of the relationship is there is to be one. If there are any kinds of mind games or dishonesty, this is where you want to set the cards straight. Singles should not be so desperate as to think things will get better—deceit and lies on the first meeting are signs of things to come.


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