Choosing Couples or Singles
For some people, if they are not part of a couple, they are not happy, while others are content to live life as singles. Which should you choose? That has to be a decision you make, and you must make it based upon what is right for you, and what makes you happen. If you have just left a bad relationship, you certainly do not want to jump back into a relationship—give yourself time to heal. Not only that, if you have been in a long-term relationship or marriage, you need the time to be alone and depend on yourself instead of someone else before you enter into another relationship.
Does that mean you shouldn’t date? No, of course it doesn’t, but instead of becoming involved in a relationship, just have fun. Date different people, go to dances, meeting new people for just friendship, and do things on your own that you didn’t have a chance to do when you were part of a couple. It’s never a good idea to start a new relationship as soon as you one, especially if the relationship was intense. Even if it wasn’t that intense, give yourself some space before you choose another couples relationship. It’s certainly easy enough to think you need that “security,” but the truth is that many relationship fail for that reason alone. People become co-dependent, and they cannot exist outside of the scope of the relationship, and the other person feels smothered.
Even if you are single because you don’t have a steady partner, don’t be overly concerned with changing that. What many people fail to realize is that when it’s time for them to be part of a couple, it will happen. You don’t want to force it, or seek someone out just to be part of a couple. Friends of the opposite gender are just as nice to have, and you never know—that may be the person with whom your destiny lies when the time is right.